Frequently Asked Questions
1. Why is this program mainly geared towards people of color when any race can experience exotificization/fetishization?
• Yes, any race can experience exotificization/fetishization, but people of colors’ experience of exotificization/fetishization is more complex because of the increased marginalization and fewer resources/safe spaces.
2. Is this program white-bashing? Male-bashing? White-male-bashing?
• No, this program is not designed to throw any group under the bus, but we do recognize that certain groups benefit more from the current social hierarchy.
3. Is this political?
• Recognizing marginalization and privilege is not innately political, but these concepts do influence, and are influenced, by laws and government.
4. Is this one of those feminist things?
• This is not part of a feminist agenda and we do not advocate for any particular social change, but the program does examine societal inequalities.
5. Does this curriculum foster a divisive (us vs. them) attitude?
• No, we hope that this curriculum will foster increased personal understanding of one’s self...past, present, and future.
6. I identify as a male victim/survivor of violence. But there are less resources for me and if I speak up/reach out I’m not taken seriously by female survivors.
• We hope to create a safe space for all survivors. We hope that, if you feel unable to speak in group, that you pull aside a facilitator and discuss how we can create a more open space.
7. I have many thoughts and opinions about these topics, but I’m afraid of coming off as offensive.
• As long as you show respect (no derogatory statements, no slurs, no jokes, no threats, respectful tone, etc.), all ideas, thoughts, and questions are welcome.
8. I get multicultural training at work; how is this any different?
• While multicultural training focuses on increasing awareness of other cultures and how to interact with others, this group focuses on individuals having the opportunity for self-reflection and identity development.
9. Will you cover intercultural relationship violence/conflict? (i.e., I’m japanese-american, and my partner is vietnamese-american….I identify as christian and my partner identifies as another faith)
• We do not focus on intercultural dynamics, but many of the tools and activities can be used in that context. We did not want to try to cover too many things at the risk of not exploring each properly.
10. I identify as non-binary. Will my experience be included when discussing gender and relationships?
• This curriculum takes an intersectional perspective on identity, so, while race is the focal point of many activities, gender is a crucial part of the discussion.
11. I’m technically a person of color, but race is not a big part of my identity. Is this group for me?
• It can be. As long as you want to create a community with other survivors of domestic violence and want to explore your experience of identity, then come!
12. I identify as a multiracial person, but recognize I’ve passed as a different race for most of my life (e.g., white/black/hispanic/asian-passing etc). What’s something I could get out of this/learn about myself that I don’t already know?
• The intersectional foundation of this group encourages looking at identity holistically, so being “X”-passing is only one piece of the jigsaw that you can examine in group.
13. What makes this group different from other support/processing groups?
• Most support groups do not intentionally create a space for minorities to examine their experience of race in connection to their relationships and identity.